I keep giving him this to play with so he can instantly see the difference by sliding the lighting control etc

http://camerasim.com/camera-simulator.html

Thanks for all the tips everyone.

Now the sad news.

The D3100 has gone back. There was a problem with the focusing. 4 people in the shop had a play with it and all agreed there was a problem. I thought it was me because my hand shake but it wasn't. The automatic focus didn't focus correctly. They put it on a the counter so it was rock steady, focused on some letters and it still came out not right. After playing with it for 3 days the truth be known I didn't like the set up that much anyway, I know I would have got used to it but there was lots of button pressing to get from one bit to the other.

Sooooooooooooooooooo, I picked up a Canon 550D and was looking at that. Lighter than the Nikon, liked the idea of remote from the pc (I think that had it). But I didn't get that.

I ended up getting, (and a big thanks to Niko for his help) the Lumix G3. It's sitting in front of me just now while I wait for the battery to charge. What clinched it was its size. I thought this is for me, no lugging a heavy camera around. Being lighter, hopefully I wont get as bad camera shake. (Apparently it can focus in a nano second) Also being so happy with the FZ38 over the last few years I thought I'd stick with the Lumix brand.
A lens for it is not cheap, but I'd bet a few bob they won't bad when I do get one.
So the fund for my new lens starts here: Please send money as a paypal gift to............

So there we have it. For the moment I now have a Lumix G3. I'll repeat that. For the moment.....

Dave, the right camera for you is the one that suits you best, whatever it is. Being M4/3 there are a wealth of lenses available to you. Ok, maybe not the wide range of the big makers , but still pretty extensive. Good luck to you and happy togging!

so the pictures you took that were in focus would have been the ones that would have been out of focus had the camera been working hahahaha

You'd better get that Kit list edited quick Dave

You said there was something wrong with the focus too, I thought it was shake lol.

Updated Ken

Think the cheapest lens for that camera starts at 200 Dave

Really wish I hadn't stated this thread now.

THIS IS MY NEW CAMERA AND I LIKE IT VERY MUCHLY.

Blooming heck Dave, I think I'll wait now and see if it sticks